Some images and scenarios are absolutely crushing to even imagine.
A small child left confused and upset because their birthday party is sparsely attended is arguably a strong candidate for this.
No parent wants to see that. While these things aren’t a popularity contest, turn-out matters when you’re young.
So imagine one mum’s distress at witnessing how her son’s sixth birthday party unfolded after NONE of the little boy’s friends attended (as well as their parents, who were also invited).
What makes it all the more heartbreaking is that for this birthday, his mum had learnt her lesson from the previous year when she sent out invites with very little notice – resulting in none of his school mates being able to come along.
What happened this year, then?
The mum also admitted on Reddit that, “my son didn’t really get along with the other kids in the first place.”
However, “This year he spent all year focusing on making friends (different group of kids than last year). We sent out invites a month in advance with multiple reminders.”
A lot of preparation had gone into the big day, with cupcakes ordered, party supplies at the ready and the venue booked.
One slight flaw was that the party was booked for Mother’s Day, although the mum did account for this so “over-invited and made the party noon to 2 thinking it would be after brunch or before a bbq, typical Mother’s Day activities.
“We had eight families RSVP that they would be there (18 kids).
“The parents emailed me asking for gift ideas, telling me how many siblings to expect, saying how excited they were…
“And all EIGHT families no-showed.”
Like any protective parent, the mum is seriously angry at the lack of courtesy and communication coming from the other parents.
“I get that it’s Mother’s Day, and yeah the weather wasn’t great, but would it kill you to send me a damn text message?!?
“What am I supposed to tell my son? Despite the obvious disappointment my husband and I forced a smile and carried on like no big deal…
“My son seemed to have a good time anyway, until he realized all of the empty place settings when we did cake.”
What would you do in this situation?
Other parents had plenty of suggestions, with one writing: “You need to confront these parents.
“It is not OK to do this. Not only did you put money into a party for no shows, more importantly, this is a crushing blow to a child’s self-esteem. Worst case, you lose some ‘friends’ that aren’t actually.”
“I would personally call out every single adult,” commented another. “This is disgusting and no way to behave at all.”
Dear mom,next time try having your son’s birthday at an orphanage centers or children hospitals…its more rewarding and they always show up.